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The Courage to Be Disliked

Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga

288 Pages
2019

The Courage to Be Disliked

Simon and Schuster

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The Courage to Be Disliked - Summary

The Courage to Be Disliked is a philosophical exploration based on Alfred Adler's theories, presented as a dialogue between a wise philosopher and a cynical young man. The book challenges readers to break free from others' expectations and past influences, introducing concepts like teleology and the separation of tasks. It offers a framework for achieving happiness through self-reliance and authentic living, while remaining accessible despite its complex psychological foundations.

Key Ideas

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The separation of tasks

Learning to distinguish between our own tasks and the tasks of others, leading to healthier boundaries and emotional freedom

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The importance of the here and now

Breaking free from the chains of past traumas and future anxieties by focusing on the present moment

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The pursuit of self-reliance and the courage to be disliked

Recognizing that seeking universal approval is a futile endeavor and embracing the freedom that comes from living authentically

FAQ's

Not exactly. The 'courage to be disliked' isn't about becoming insensitive or indifferent. It's about recognizing that seeking constant approval is a recipe for unhappiness. The book encourages building self-worth from within and prioritizing your own values, even if they don't always align with everyone else's.

No, while the book explores philosophical themes, it is not affiliated with any specific religion. It draws on psychological principles and offers a secular approach to personal growth and happiness.

The Courage to Be Disliked offers a framework for understanding yourself and your choices, but it doesn't prescribe rigid steps. It encourages self-reflection and invites readers to apply the principles discussed to their own unique situations.

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The exploration of Adlerian psychology through a skeptic's dialogue with a philosopher challenges conventional wisdom and holds the potential to transform lives.
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A young man, dissatisfied with life's complexities, visits a philosopher known for his belief in the simplicity of life and the attainability of happiness. The philosopher's teachings, based on Adlerian psychology, challenge conventional wisdom and provoke resistance, yet they hold the potential to transform lives. The young man, skeptical of these ideas, engages in a dialogue with the philosopher, aiming to debunk his theories. This dialogue format is adopted to address potential doubts and objections from readers. The young man's journey to understanding these ideas mirrors the reader's own journey, making the exploration of Adler's theories more relatable and engaging.

Adler was a founding giant of psychology along with Freud and Jung, but is less recognized today. He proposed an individual psychology aligned with Greek philosophy and ahead of its time. His ideas on human potential and abilities have become commonplace. Though not widely remembered, Adler's psychology is seen as realizing truths about human nature.

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